The Diagnosis

The diagnosis – drum roll, please! Why isn’t she walking? She’s 18 months old. She should be walking by now. Well folks, it was 1949 and diagnosing moved slower back then. When I couldn’t walk by 18 months; they took me to a doctor to find out...

Buelah, the Matriarch

From what I’ve been told and from listening when I wasn’t supposed to be listening; I garnered that my infant existence quickly became a tug of war between Beulah and Amelia. My mom was supposed to find her voice and well, that didn’t happen. She was no match for...

The beginning

Has anyone heard the Garth Brooks song titled “Mom?” I’ve watched him perform it and my tears flowed. It was about a baby getting ready to leave God and come to earth and being afraid because earth could be a scary place. And God said, “it’s time to go meet your mom.”...

Your Silver Lining

Have you ever known people who irritate you to the edge of your endurance? I know you have; we all have. It’s part of the human condition. Do you know that they can be your greatest teachers, your greatest motivators? I have such a person in my life right now. She...

How Gaslighting may have saved me…

Last April (2020,) I somehow ended up with a bleed in my hip that was very painful. I was in the hospital for 4 days and actually got to see that they were prepared for Covid. So even though I was in fear of this deadly virus that had invaded us; I was comforted by...

What is Gaslighting

Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse that involves manipulating someone until they question their own sense of reality. I call it crazy-making and I can always tell when I’m being gaslighted because I start to feel “crazy.” I experienced a marriage where...

The language of narcissism

Through coaching, I have learned that the narcissistic community has a terminology of their own. I’m going to attempt to teach you to speak NARC:                1 Gaslighting – a manipulative means...

What is Narcissism?

Books have been written about this topic; so, I am not going to do it justice in one page. The word narcissist is thrown around a lot these days. I think of narcissism as being on a continuum. It can be a mental illness as explained in the DSM-5, but most people...